A girl was allegedly molested by three men in Varanasi’s Banaras Hindu University (BHU) campus. The administration failed to take action and instead blamed her for being out post 6 pm. That led to violent protests at the campus which lasted for over 30 hours. Victim-shaming and blaming the girl for ‘inviting’ rape is not an aberration but is almost a norm in the country.
Appalling statements from ministers and leaders in the past have gone on to prove how it is innately understood that rape doesn’t happen to the ‘sanskari’ ones but to those who are out late at night, who wear western clothes, eat chow mien and use mobile phones- that’s what Haryana Khap Jitender Chattar said,"Chowmein leads to hormonal imbalance evoking an urge to indulge in such acts."The RSS chief Mohan Bhagwat blames urbanization for rapes, “You go to villages and forests of the country and there will be no such incidents of gang-rape or sex crimes…They are prevalent in some urban belts.”
By the way according to the National Crime Records Bureau, 75% of rape cases that led to convictions over the last 25 years were from rural India.
Even as politicians like to blame objects, phones, chow mein and high-rise buildings for rape, most of our leaders are of the idea that boys are not to blame, and that rape happens to those girls who step beyond the conventional borders drawn out for her.
Samajwadi Party Leader Abu Azmi is of the opinion that, “The more the nudity, the more a girl is considered fashionable. Ants will swarm the place where sugar is.”
His son is married to Bollywood actress Ayesha Takia and she does wear 'Ant' attracting clothes.
When asked about the rising number of rape cases in Haryana, this is what Dharamveer Goyat, Hisar Congress, had to say “I have no hesitation in saying that about 90 percent of the girls consensually go with men and become targets of rape.”
This comes as no surprise when the top elected official of Haryana, Manohar Lal Khattar, is of the view that, "If a girl is dressed decently, a boy will not look at her in the wrong way…Freedom has to be limited. These short clothes are Western influences. Our country's tradition asks girls to dress decently."In context to the brutal gang-rape of 23-year-old Nirbhaya in 2012, some of our ministers made timely statements, claiming it was the girl who was at fault.
“Just because the country attained independence at midnight, is it proper for women moving at midnight?” is what Andhra Pradesh Congress leader, Botsa Satyanarayana had to say about the gang rape.
And in response to the hanging the convicts of the brutal incident, Samajwadi Party Leader Mulayam Singh Yadav said, “Should rape cases lead to hanging? Boys are boys, they make mistakes.”
When THIS is the mentality of those who lead us, it must come as no surprise that the rapist’s quotes are no different from them. Just goes on to show how we all are socialised into this same patriarchal mindset. Here, you will not be able to differentiate the comments of the rapists from the comments of the leaders who rule us . In Leslee Udwin’s documentary, India’s Daughter, Mukesh Singh, who was driving the bus on the night Nirbhaya was raped, said that the victim should have remained silent, it got brutal only because she retaliated. “A decent girl won't roam around at 9 o'clock at night. ... Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes,” said an unapologetic Singh.For yes it is the girl’s fault if she’s out at 9 o’clock in Delhi or out at 6 o’clock in the campus of BHU. It is her fault if she gets raped. Because boys are boys, they make mistakes. It is the girl who must be decent and stay indoors, not roam around in discos and bars and do wrong things. Mind you, boys can do that, but girl, you better behave, for if you are raped, it is your fault. Why? Cause boys will be boys, they make mistakes.